I used to cry every time I left home to go back to school. My eyes would slowly fill with tears that I tried to blink away as I pulled away from my house and then again when my dad would leave me in the security line at National Airport. Even though I loved Chicago and school and my friends the tears would always come, remnants of the child who once told her mother she would never leave home.
When I left for New York, now more than four months ago, I cried as well. A six-week stay at home had once again filled my heart with the love that surrounds me when I am there. I cried because I was leaving home for good, because I was terrified of what life in the city would hold for me, because it was the first time in my life where I was going off without a real plan.
Yesterday I left home again, after spending the long weekend thoroughly ensconced in home life. I like to say that each time I go home I revert to my teenage self - lying around the house, going to the mall, carrying a Vera Bradley bag on my arm. I spent time with my parents and my best friend who I've known since I was five and high school friends and I listened to the near silence of suburban nights and walked out onto the back deck in my bare feet. I got bitten by mosquitoes and ate way too much and relived old rituals with a cup of coffee and a copy of the Washington Post. And I wished the weekend were longer so that I could stay and give my parents longer hugs and sit around the dinner table for hours. I was sad to leave.
But I didn't cry. Instead of thinking of the things I was leaving, I was thinking about what I would be coming back to: the city that I love, friends I want to see, friends who want to see me, a job that I'm never sorry to wake up for (except maybe that one time when I was hungover on a Wednesday morning), a boy I have a crush on, the beginning of fashion week, my bed that is, admittedly, the one superior thing about my apartment as opposed to my house... Even though I was leaving home and my parents and that wonderful cocoon, I'm actually making a life here in New York and when I got back to my apartment, well, it felt just like home.